This week is special to me! I not only did I meet my husband, it’s also his birthday, and our anniversary ~ each of which are so very special to me! I am amazed at how fast the years have gone by and I have thought much about what I wanted to write. I don’t share a lot of my personal life so here you go everyone ~ I hope you enjoy!
First I have to tell you, I am so very lucky to be married to a man who loves me exactly for who I am. My husband is my best friend, the love of my life, and I’m just lucky enough to be married to him. He pushes me, pulls me, stands by my side and often leads the way. Is he a true romantic with breakfast served in bed and flowers delivered to the door? Ummm, no he isn’t.
But, I have to tell you, I am married to a man who can spend a romantic night dipping our feet in the passing river with a bottle of vino shared between us. He can laugh when I grab him to dance when a great song comes on (or, also laugh because I am known to dance by myself too). My husband protects me, he takes care of me, he laughs at my jokes and my sad sense of humor. He will sleep on the couch when I don’t feel good because he doesn’t want his snoring to keep me awake. He covers me up when I am resting, calls me to see how my day is going, has my coffee ready when I get out of bed (most important), and picks up the slack when I am too busy with work. My husband tries to make my world the best place. I am lucky! Each day is a little bit of work for both of us. Nothing is taken for granted and nothing is forgotten. Life is fragile and so are people. We trust each other, we talk to one another, we laugh, we cry and yes, we do get angry, but most importantly, I love him just as much if not more.
His romantic ~ he loves me more than all the sand granules on the beaches in the world ~ that’s a whole lotta lovin’!!! He rubs my feet, takes me out to dinner when we’re too tired to cook, turns up the music and lets me relax in the pool, goes on vacations, brings me lunch while I’m working, gives me the world and so many more things that we all take for granted.
I am a city girl, he is a country boy. We are different and yet, we have found a common ground along with a life that we make our own rules. We are a little different and march to a different drum . . . Ours. Go figure I say. My husband has stood quietly and supported me and my decisions. He has helped me with his silence in making me aware of who and what I was and what I stand for. For that in itself, I love him!
Is this a sappy love story? No, I just want others to know that the beautiful fairy tale we all think will happen, really doesn’t always happen the way we think. We have our disagreements, our “I am so not talking to you” moments, and then . . . I laugh. I tell him it’s silly to fight because we’re stuck with each other so we might as well make the best of it. I tell him how we are blessed with one more day and I will not waste another moment . . . He hugs me and all is right with the world.
Life is hard. Marriage is difficult.
I often tell my husband how wonderful life is. He sometimes looks at me like I’m a little crazy - which may not be too far from the truth. Seriously though, to be in love, how wonderful is it to start each day and end each day with a spouse that is truly a part of your heart and soul?
My best wishes to all of you, but mostly, thank you to my husband for loving me, supporting me, and being there for me. Most importantly though, for being the love of my life.
Happy birthday, Happy Anniversary, Happy Day We Met Anniversary ~ you are one of life’s importance’s that are precious and rare and I can only hope that each day you feel as much as you mean to me!
So, I will leave you with our vows and wish all of you the same.
“Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the art of marriage: the little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say “I love you”. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end, it should continue through all the years. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objects. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle a love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of job. It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and sense of humor. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding room for the things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual, and the obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it’s being the right partner.”